A Gay in the Life for July 19, 2012

For Weekly SurgeJuly 17, 2012 

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Thanks to “RuPaul’s Drag Race” there’s a ki ki explosion going on across the country – at least on social networks such as Facebook and Twitter. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the term, it refers to two drag queens hooking up – or having sexual intercourse. The term, along with the other version – kai kai, became extra popular this year after Sharon Needles went all the way to win the title as RuPaul’s Drag Queen Superstar. The Manson-like drag performer is in a relationship with fellow drag performer, Alaska Thunderfuck.

But don’t worry – I’m not writing about the sexual exploits of drag queens. When searching for the definition of ki ki earlier this week, I came across the Web site WordOfTheGay.com which strives to provide a “straight take on gay language, one day at-a-time.” Blogger “joshiku,” who is really Joshua Tjaden, a major gifts officer at Gay Men’s Health Crisis, scours the Internet, the library, the gay bar and his own obviously unique brain for words, phrases and slang that are “oh, so gay.”

The list is entertaining from the first entry of “Mary” to his most recent entry of “kai kai” which I mentioned before. According to Tjaden, ki ki is a general slang term “used when gay men laugh, giggle or joke around with one another.” The usage above is becoming the more-referenced due solely because of its use in popular culture.

Sticking with the drag queen theme, some of my favorites include “tucknology – the methods and processes that drag performers (a.k.a. drag queens) use to create the illusion of the female form, ‘down there’” and “realness - the ability to ‘blend’ or ‘pass’ as the opposite sex, or as heterosexual.” And in honor of Lady Chablis, who is making her way to the Grand Strand again this weekend (see Out & About below), “hide my candy” which I’ll leave the description to your imagination.

Other terms that I’ve now been able to add to my vocabulary include “salad - which describes a man with a well-defined, muscular physique” and “gayby - refers to the little tykes that are adopted or conceived by a gay, lesbian or LGBT couple.” My personal favorite that I hope to use on a more regular basis is “green queen” that refers to your more eco-conscious gay guys. As Tjaden puts it, “even though there is a lot of noise about climate change, and of devastation and irreversible damage to our natural resources, only certain folks seem to be hearing it. I like to refer to a gay man who is conscious of his day-to-day impact on the environment as a Green Queen.”

Although the blog isn’t updated on a daily basis and has a modest 33,179 views – check it out next time you have some time to kill, at work or just trying to impress your friends with your superb cutting-edge slang abilities.


It’s time for the next chapter in Myrtle Beach’s gay nightlife scene to finally take shape after the months of “Ru Mors” and changes, Pulse Ultra Club, which refers to itself as the “Heartbeat of the Gay Community” will open its doors soon at 803 Main Street in downtown Myrtle Beach. Incidentally, the club will be positioned in the middle of the Strand’s two oldest LGBT nightlife venues – Rainbow House Bar & Grill which celebrates its 14th anniversary this weekend and Time Out! which is now in its 23rd year.

Following the mass appeal from the LGBT community for Pulse’s owners and partners Ken Phillips and Frank Bush to open up a new place following the social catastrophe at Ru Mors at Kono, which for reasons I don’t understand is still advertising itself as a full-fledged gay club on its Web site and Facebook page – the duo signed a lease on the property just weeks ago and is completing finishing touches on city regulations and setup. Along with those two, local bar favorite Julie Thomas, whom I’d previously mentioned had left Time Out! for the new position at Ru Mors will move on to Pulse.

For more information visit www.Facebook.com/PulseUltraClub or call 315-0019. The date for the grand opening has not been announced yet, but is expected to be coming soon.


Friday, July 20 – Rainbow House Bar & Grill will celebrate its 14th Anniversary on Friday with a night of celebrity entertainment featuring the return of Lady Chablis, of “Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil” fame, to Myrtle Beach. In addition, Patti O’Furniture, the “Queen of Comedy” from Columbia will be perform with shows at 10:30 p.m. and midnight. For more information, visit www.rainbowhousemyrtlebeach.com or call 626-7298.

Friday, Aug. 3 – The First Friday Happy Hour group will meet from 5:30 – 7:30 p.m. on Friday at Liberty Tap Room & Grill, 7651 North Kings Highway, Myrtle Beach. Take advantage of Liberty’s popular happy hour menu available from 4 p.m. – 7 p.m. First Friday is a gay professional’s after work happy hour where everyone is welcome. For more information visit www.firstfridayhappyhour.org.

Aug. 10-12 – Myrtle Beach Gay Days is scheduled for the second weekend in August and more information is out about this 3-day festival. On Friday after guests check-in at Breakers Oceanfront Resort, this year’s host hotel, head just across the street to Papas Lounge for a kick-off wine social, before heading out to the night’s block pre-party at Rainbow House, Time Out! and Club Traxx. My guess would be that Pulse Ultra Club will be added soon. Then on Saturday, get up early for Sun-Up Yoga and the Family Fun Festival at Plyler Park on Ocean Boulevard in Myrtle Beach. The day’s events will include Myrtle Beach Gay Games, live beach entertainment, a rainbow marketplace, group “takeover” of Family Kingdom (Tickets are $21) and happy hour entertainment at Time Out!. Saturday night is the party with the Gay Days Block Fusion Party in the Super Block area of downtown. Sunday finishes off the weekend with a Beach Bum 3K Charity Run (registration is $20) to benefit local and national charities and the inaugural Mimosa Brunch at 2nd Avenue Pier. More details are coming soon, but all access passes are available online for only $15 which get you into all of the block parties and clubs at www.myrtlebeachgaydays.com. Click on the “Gay Days Shop”.

Sept. 29 – Careteam’s Annual 2012 AIDS Walk is just around the corner and its time to get registered so you can start raising funds for this great community-based event which supports those affected and infected by HIV/AIDS in Horry, Georgetown and Williamsburg Counties. This year’s event will be on Saturday, Sept. 29 at Plyler Park at the corner of North Ocean Boulevard and 11th Avenue North in Myrtle Beach. Registration is at 9:30 a.m. and the walk starts at 10:30 a.m. Minimum donation is $5. For more information, visit www.careteamsc.org.

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